Asking for help
Coach Sall
Wow! I had some fantastic responses to last week’s email (thank you!) about the messy middle and while lots of you are not there in this moment (great news because we can’t all be there at the same time ha ha), everyone related to it, or a version of it.
One reply though made me realise that I’d overlooked a very important part of the solution to that messy-middle moment (remember the one where I said you want to tap out and might be tempted to set light to everything!).
I said perseverance was the answer, and it is, for sure. You won’t make progress without it. But there is another answer and it’s one you might be resistant to so hear me out…
Ask for Help.
Now, I’m not sure why so many of us are resistant to asking for help but I do know it is a really big deal (especially for women), and I know this because I am having conversations where you all tell me.
Before you resist and move onto the next email let me give you some examples of what asking for help sounds like.
When you’ve been showing up but not seeing results, asking a Coach for a one-to-one on the circuit (as happened in this email that I received) so you know you are doing things correctly and can see how you can get results
When you’re in the middle of that huge project (as I was), picking one thing and saying to someone, “what do you think would be the answer to this?” or “where should I put this?” or “will this work?” etc etc.
When you are finding that you don’t want to have your Coaching & Accountability (month after month) asking a Coach to help you set EXERCISE RELATED actionable, achievable goals so that you have something to celebrate next month 🎉
When you are resistant to coming to the gym and find yourself saying “what’s the point?”, asking your Coach to help you hammer out an X-factor that reminds you of the point.
Trust me when I say that if you master the skill (because it is a skill) of asking for help, the only way you will ever get stuck in the messy middle again is if you cannot find the right person to ask, and that’s a different problem (which might even be next week’s email!).
I think this is a big one and I want to know what you think:
Do you find it difficult to ask for help?
Using the examples above, what could it sound like for you?
Hit reply and let me know, I love hearing from you 💜
