Don’t walk through the world looking for evidence that you don’t belong, because you will always find it. 

Don’t walk through the world looking for evidence that you’re not enough, because you will always find it. 

Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people. 

We’ve got a big day planned here today – it’s our Vision Board Day and today all of the Coaches put together a vision of what we would like 2025 to look like. 

It’s great fun, we go crazy cutting and gluing, then we’re going axe throwing! 

But back to the point here… 

If you are starting to find yourself a little stressed about a certain upcoming festival… 
If you’re already overwhelmed with all the things you’re feeling you MUST do… 
If you’re sacrificing workouts, or putting off coming back, or putting off joining…

How’s your attitude? 

Or rather, attitudeS, because you can have different attitudes about different things. 

Changing how you think and feel about something could change everything for you. 

I can change your workout with just 7 words.
It's so simple, you'll likely read this and then just forget about it. 
But seriously, don't! 
You want results - your results lie in feeling the benefit of the machines, that is FEELING the muscles working. 

We all know that making the time to workout can feel tough, it IS tough sometimes. 

It’s something that is always highlighted to me when I speak to new members and see the change in how they schedule their time. 

Which brings me back to my conversation with Emma (who I mentioned in last week’s email). 

I got some great replies to last week’s email, thanks everyone!

This week I’m going feature Kaz’s reply because she got it spot on and I want you all to hear what she said.

“It’s not can I do a workout, but when!!!” (those exclamation marks are all hers cos she really means it 😎)

Whether you get your workouts, or not, is literally all in your head.

Using words like “if I can make it”, or “can I fit it in”, or “have I got time” will mean that your brain will look for an answer, and our brains are not very good at spotting things that aren’t there (i.e. gaps in your schedule).

How do you want to FEEL today (or tomorrow or the next day)

Motivated? Energised? Calm? Empowered? Healthy? Ready for anything? Loved? Appreciated? Noticed?

Get it written on a “To-feel” list.

What do you need to do to feel like that? Now you have your action AND your motivation.

There are many reasons to exercise. (Dannii and I talk extensively about them here). 

Keeping going with your exercise habit, well, that can be tough one.

And here’s the reason.

There is no finish line.

It never ends.

It never gets easier.

You get Stronger.

You get fitter. 

Hopefully you’ll be able to work or play harder, faster, longer.

Building yourself a robust habit of 3 workouts a week at Curves is EVERYTHING – whether you want to sleep better, get great Smart® results, have more energy, increase your metabolism, laugh more, improve your Strength, improve your physical and mental health or simply feel like you are deteriorating less!

Anyway, your replies got me thinking, especially Dawn W’s (thank Dawn).
 
Some of you pointed out that you often come for your workout on “half a decision”, and often those are the best workouts (which reminded me that I’ve had that particular phenomenon on my list for an email or a blog post for some time now so stand by for that coming up - I digress)!
 
The fact is, when you come in on those days you didn’t feel like it, when you come because you feel you should, when you are only halfway to being ready – you’re always glad you did.

We know it can be a big step walking in our door for the first time, the first time in a while or sometimes on any given day.

 When new member Julia came for her second workout this week she reminded me that we are all just one decision away from achieving our goals.

I asked her “Are you ready for this?”

She replied “Oh I’m ready,  I’ve decided.”

Did you celebrate your progress with a Coach this week? Do you find it easy to spot your wins? Or are you focused on that number (probably on the scale) and continually disappointed? 

If you’ve been disappointed this week, or struggle to see your success and small achievements then I’ve been thinking about you a lot this week, because I’ve been wondering, why so hard on yourself? 

Task = housework 

Purpose = a clean and relaxing home 

Task = 30-minute workout at Curves 

Purpose = develop lean muscle, increase metabolism, balance hormones, burn fat, maintain joints, reduce risk of preventable disease, be Stronger, sleep better, regulate emotions, calm racing thoughts, destress, reduce cortisol, see friends, laugh, be fitter, be fit enough to enjoy life, live longer, increase energy… 

Determination always pays off. 

Stick with what you are doing. 

Don’t let comparing yourself to others drag off a path that you know is right for you. 

I found a scribbled note this morning, I do this all the time from anything I am consuming and this quote is from a novel by V.E.Schwabb called The Invisible Life of Addie LaRou. 

The note said, “it’s easy to stay on the right path when the road is straight, and the steps are numbered” and I thought you might need to hear that this week. 

How often is the path straight? How many of the steps are numbered? Well, a quick internet search for pretty much anything would have you believe that it’s all the time. 

This time last month I was talking about my lightbulb moments, and how I’d been working towards a particular goal for 13 years.

I said, “when we are attached to the outcome, we hyper-focus on our flaws” and I wanted to revisit that topic for this email because it’s been Coaching & Accountability week in the gym, and I have seen this happening over and over again.

It’s happened again. Another lightbulb moment like the one I mentioned in my last email.

This one was about goal setting (I'll share it next week), and it came from a few different things I am listening to and reading at the moment (2 books and 9 podcast episodes).

And it’s the listening and reading that I want to talk to you about today.

So many of you ask me for advice about achieving your goals, and whatever the question the answer boils down to the same thing in different words.

This morning, while I was going through my morning routine, I had a bit of a lightbulb moment.

I love it when that happens.

All of a sudden something falls into place in your brain, and you see everything totally (or even just slightly) differently.

I came across this quote on social media the other day and I thought to myself, I have to share this

I want you to give these words some hard thought over the weekend. 

Hate might be too strong a word for you, but please don’t get stuck on that.